If the situation does not seem simple at first glance, I offer in this article some elements of reflection and discussion around nudity and naturism. They will, I hope, help you discuss naturism, simple nudity, accepted nudity, and ultimately shared nudity. Nudity and naturism are topics that can become controversial as society has done a brilliant job of undermining to impose social and dress standards demonizing nudity and assimilating it to sexuality. If you haven’t read them already, I advise you to start with the following articles: 12 reasons why I’m nudist , 11 ways to be comfortable with naturism and the Le confort de la nudité series that starts with The comfort of nudity – 1/6 – The naked body is only a naked body .
Open a bottle of wine, make mojitos or tequilas sunrise, make yourself comfortable with your spouse and bring up the subject of nudity and naturism. Two elements are essential to this discussion: a certain openness and a positioning of nudity outside of sexuality. Assuming that your partner is open-minded and accepts honest discussions, approach the discussion of non-sexual nudity by sharing your well-being.
Society, religions and culture generally have a sexualized conception of nudity, the message of which is anchored in people’s minds. It is essential to accept that nudity may not be related to sexuality or exhibitionism. Nudity is a state of being. For most people, nudity should be limited in time and space. We take our clothes off to take a shower, for example, and that’s it. It should never be shared with others. It often happens that spouses stop there. You have to understand it and accept it for the moment. It is difficult to reverse a deeply held belief.
However, this should not prevent us from accepting that other people may have a different conception of nudity. A simple nudity, without sexual connotation, carrier of well-being, comfort and simplicity. In fact, millions of people feel this comfort and this simplicity, for which nudity is healthy and natural, without any visible or hidden connotations.
It is always possible to make rational arguments, such as removing shame from the body, better absorption of vitamin D, or the existence of associations recognized by the state. However, the rejection of naturism is often not rational, but emotional. It is therefore important to act on the emotions by accepting that your partner expresses her discomfort with nudity and that you share your understanding and benevolence with her. Don’t enter conflict, but accept to take a step towards him by understanding his position, while making him accept that others can be different without being perverse, exhibitionists or voyeurs.
Once her position is understood and accepted, it is time for your spouse to understand and accept yours. It is the acceptance of your nudity and your choice to be able to be naked whenever you want. It is entirely possible to be naked when others are dressed, as long as your nudity is understood and accepted. It is obviously important that you are comfortable with your own nudity.
If you feel like you are doing something wrong, your partner will notice it and unease will set in. It is possible that the first few days you will experience conflicting emotions. Tell yourself that you are not doing anything wrong, you are just naked, in all simplicity.
The well-being and comfort of nudity will quickly take precedence over other feelings. You will then be in harmony with your inner self and probably a little bit with the whole universe. Do not hesitate to thank your partner for the openness he has shown, as well as for his understanding. Accepting differences is a form of respect that the world needs. It is in difference and diversity that the best things are created.
As the days or experiences progress, questions will undoubtedly arise. Maybe also clashes, differences, disagreements. Take the opportunity to discuss, openly, expressing opposing points of view and seeking areas of agreement. There are always some, but without removing the simplicity and acceptance of nudity. Little by little, the story will catch on and beyond the accepted nudity, you may come across shared nudity.
Accepting the nudity of others is a step towards accepting your own nudity. This is certainly not a guarantee, but a step in the right direction. Some events that happen are outside of our control. Others are the result of our choices. Offering to spend a moment on a naturist beach or to spend a weekend in a naturist area are choices that can be made.
Beyond the possibility, these are proposals that you can make to your significant other. Naturists tend to say that naturism cannot be explained, it has to be experienced and lived. Spending a moment in a naturist space, exposed to the nudity of others and confronted with your own fears and questions generally helps to dispel them. The naturalness of this shared nudity appears. It can also destabilize.
Undressing and seeing people naked can be very uncomfortable. We must not rush things then. Let them come slowly, talking about it, letting out what causes discomfort. For some people, the discomfort runs so deep that only strong will and the help of a practitioner can overcome it. For others, time and benevolent communication will do their work.
This nudity shared with the people you love is a Holy Grail, an immense happiness and a true communication of the soul. With sometimes a lot of perseverance, love, kindness and encouragement, anyone can come to this simple and natural shared nudity. A new dimension opens up made of respect and simplicity. Nudity is beautiful!